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    5/25/2009

    自虐

           弗洛伊德描述过这样一种孩童的行为:孩子们会把自己藏起来,好让大人找不到,这时他们会格外紧张,深怕大人会忘记他们,甚至抛弃他们。可是在这个躲藏的过程中,孩子们却又享受着刺激的快感,把它当成一个好玩的游戏。然后,他们会被发现,或自己耐不住性子跑出来,与父母团圆。这其实是自虐的基本形式。

           其实,何止小孩,大人何尝不喜欢这个刺激的游戏呢?

           我们先是制造一个被舍弃被厌恶的状态,同时暗自品尝其中的痛苦和刺激,接着期待破镜重圆的幸福。比如一个人怀疑其伴侣不忠,任何小事都能理解为对方出轨的片段,甚至幻想出丰富的情节。表面上很痛苦,其实很享受。当伴侣九牛二虎的证明了自己的清白,那种失而复得的幸福才能达到最高程度。

          于是这样的把戏重复上演,到最后,伴侣累了,自己累了,游戏结束。

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    Q Qwrote:
    还有比自虐更有趣的事么
    July 10
    鱼 轩辕wrote:
    我现在就在自虐呢,明明很饿,我还挺着,看我能挺多久!
    June 24

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